Relationship breakdowns are painful and we can find ourselves living in the past, not able to move forward, especially when it is your partner that ended the relationship. Emotionally we can be very distressed and not able to make decisions about the future because we are unable to let go of the relationship that has ended or the future plans made within that relationship.
Each of us has our own journey in life and on that journey many experiences come our way. How we react to those experiences and the choices we make creates our destiny. Taking yourself out of the centre of your own life and sitting on the edge of your ex’s life, by focusing your energy on finding out what they are doing, takes you out of the driving seat of your own life. Putting your life on hold, not moving forward, waiting for an ex to come back, takes you out of your power. I believe these actions lower your vibration and can make your own psychic energy stagnate and that can actually slow down what was coming your way in all areas of your life.
So what can you do? Accept they only thing we can control in life is ourselves and not other people. Take the time away from your ex to do some nurturing for yourself and self development. When you find yourself thinking about your ex, think about yourself and own life instead. Think about what you need in a relationship and if those needs were being met when you were with your ex. Are you able to offer what you need in a relationship? If the answer is no then work on making the changes you need to make. Also take time to consider all other areas of your life and if they are not meeting your needs then work towards changing them. Spend time to nurture the other relationships in your life, with family and friends. Try new hobbies; get out in nature and exercise.
By focusing on your life and staying centered and balanced within it then you empower yourself in your own life to be the best you can be and not delay the experiences that fate wants to bring your way. Furthermore, when we are centered and balanced, we are in tune with our higher self and we make the right decisions and choices based on what we need rather than what our emotions want. By doing this if your ex does want you back you will feel empowered to consider if what they have to offer is right for you and not make the decision based on pure emotion.